Ways to be happy

Well I've been seeing too many posts of people complaining on facebook and everywhere else. And I can't help but wonder what the purpose of complaining is.
Firstly by complaining about everything under the sun like annoying aunties, inconsiderate passers-by and anything, really, what are these people trying to achieve? Sympathy? A listening ear? Firstly, people who even care about you a single bit wouldn't even be replying you over there on such a public platform.
Next, if you really want advice, you wouldn't be doing it through social media since you're only attracting more attention to yourself. And if you're talking about a particular someone on your friend list/other mutual friends, wouldn't you be afraid that some people might see it and news might travel? Not a smart move, I personally feel. Shouldn't you be telling it to someone whom you can trust your secrets with, instead of posting cryptic messages in the hope that someone will ask you for more detail? I'm happier sharing my problems with my friends through messages, don't know about you. People who do that are just trying to garner attention and gain satisfaction from people who reply them. Not classy at all, really.
And then what comes next is what I'm so annoyed about! It's that these people are simply giving off negative energy! Don't they even realise this? Sounding like a selfish prick here because of the negative vibes that I've been getting. Not that I've been in the best of moods these days but at least I don't pass on these negative feelings on to others through a cryptic post on social media. I appreciate an inspirational quote or a quote that gets people thinking, but those who are just ranting or complaining just deserve to get unsubscribed off my news feed. Afterall, I don't think much of people who post their entire lives on Facebook.

If you're really that unhappy, find out why you're feeling this way and attempt to solve it. Complaining gets you no where. Yes, you feel better after ranting but where does it get you? No one is going to offer you a practical solution online.
Happiness is a choice, really. You choose to let the unhappiness overwhelm you. If you're always displeased over the same issue, then clearly something is wrong somewhere. It's like being trapped in maze. Your friends are the people on the outside. They can see the way out of the maze, and are shouting out the directions to you, but you insist that they are wrong and go the other way instead. You choose to trap yourself in the maze and yet complain about not being able to get out, what logic.
I think friends can give you all the advice in the world, but it's still up to yourself to decide whether you want to remain stuck in that rut or to get out of it. If such people want to keep complaining and yet refuse to listen to what others tell you over and over again, then these people should also realise that even if you're not sick of listening to others repeat the same thing over and over again, the party giving advice will also one day get sick of saying the same old thing. Another thing is that some people like asking others for advice when they clearly have already made up their mind and are just waiting for you to reaffirm their decision, but more often than not, what I say is not what they want to hear. So please consider the stand of others' as well! You know how annoying it gets when people ask for advice when they've already made up their mind. It's like our words don't count at all, really 对牛弹琴. Really tired of hearing the same thing, and knowing that I have to say this in response to that. I know I'm guilty of this sometimes but I'm trying to change and have been heeding the advice of others.
Always remember that your close friends will never mind you complaining endlessly to them or ranting simply because they're your friends. But just do it in private, please?
Another way to feel happier is to consider what you have, instead of what you don't. I remember a quote from Joy Luck Club. Jing Mei's mother tells her,"Why do you think you're missing something that you never had?" And I find it so true. The reason why most people are unhappy and dis-satisfied is because they envy what others have and wish they had what others have, without cherishing what they have. Envying never ends and is just a vicious cycle happening over and over.

Perhaps the easier way out for my own happiness would be to stop being such a stalker and looking through Facebook and do other productive stuff. That way I wouldn't be typing out this spur of the moment post when I could have spent the time elsewhere.

Define: Love

I think I've finally figured out what love is. All along, I've always tried to define love by feelings, how I feel towards a person, how the other party feels towards me (read: self centred thoughts revolving around myself). But today I realized that feelings don't matter a single bit towards defining love.

I realized today. how much I love my family. I've always doubted whether I truly love them. What a thought, right? Though I assumed so, and felt like I did, but never once was I sure that I loved them because of how I defined love. But now I'm sure.

Love is defined not by telling the people that you love them, but by showing them through your actions. Not the intentional ones like buying something you think they might like. Yes, those are acts of love but the nagging that they have to hear from you because you care for them and worry for them speaks volumes more because honestly, you wouldn't say a single thing when you don't give a damn at all. Never did it occur to me that such an annoying act towards the other person could be an indication of love, but yes, it is.

I found my answer when I wasn't looking for it at all. So enlightened now. Perhaps you already know this, but for me, better late than never(:

Pique Nique! V2

Met Steph for dinner 2 weeks ago and we decided on Pique nique because we never tried their main courses before. Went there for their desserts at Jcube before and was so tempted to try their mains and glad that I did! Googled their menu before visiting and I already decided what I wanted even before I arrived there.

My pique nique classique burger

This was super good! The beef patty was moist, flavourful and huge, topped with the slice of cheese. And the bun was crispy on the outside and soft on the inside. The fries were nice as well, probably because it was salty. Felt super guilty after eating them. But always very glad whenever the food I order turn out nice, but that also means that when I visit again, I'm more likely to stick to the safer choice. Hahaha.

Steph's farmer's omelette

Which she enjoyed as well.

We actually just ordered one main each, but then a family of 5 came and ordered desserts to share. 5 of them shared 3 desserts, which all looked so good, much to our dismay. So we decided to order this! It was either the cakes or a dessert. Really hate when I have to choose, especially between desserts. There were waffles, brownies and sticky date and toffee pudding. But we eventually decided on brownies because Steph really liked the brownies I baked last time.

We tried very hard to avoid the fresh cream and swept it aside, hahaha, the health conscious. The brownie was warm and moist, going very well with the cold ice cream. Haven't had brownies in a long long time so I really enjoyed it. I know you can't really see the brownie from this photo. The scoop of ice cream was really big. Steph said she still prefers the brownie I baked. So I guess I'll bake brownies some time, when I don't feel so lazy.

Went to Mango after dinner to shop a little since their sale just started, and really, Steph and I always manage to buy the same item, though in different colours. Hahaha, but luckily, we never ever wear the same item when we meet. Really glad to have Steph stand by me still though the 4 of us from JC don't meet or talk as often now. I was so pleasantly surprised when I bumped into Steph at the Harbourfront ferry terminal. It turned out that she was going to Batam as well! But we were not on the same ferry, neither did we stay in the same hotel. Still, it was nice to know that such a coincidence existed(: